Jasmine
I'll call her Jasmine because I can't for the love of God remember her name.
Jasmine was a lovely Middle Eastern girl (Saudi Arabian?) who was very smart and just as pretty. She was one of the few who truly loved school, for it was a place of escape and a time to socialize without having any restrictions. I never thought anything unusual of her; I was too enraptured in the teenage life and she always seemed so happy. However, it wasn't until she confided in me that I learned of the hell she lived in.
No matter how hot the temperature was, Jasmine's usual wardrobe consisted of a t-shirt, jeans, socks and sneakers and no make-up. In order to graduate, we had to pass a swim test, which was to be taken at the school. Since Jasmine was not allowed to wear anything but jeans and a t-shirt, arrangements had to be made for the test to be taken at her home, where she jumped in the pool in pants and a t-shirt.
Jasmine only had a couple of hours a day to complete her schoolwork before joining her mother to slave in the kitchen for her father and her brother. After dinner, the women were to wait and service the men in the family.
I didn't find out any of this until the day she came into school in tears... She had been raped and according to her father, it was of course her fault. How was she any good to him now? Looking back, it possibly was a good thing that Jasmine was living here in the US at the time (I think she married her cousin and moved back to Saudi Arabia or something after high school). Back in Saudi Arabia, I'm sure the possibility of Jasmine being a victim of an "honor killing" would have occurred. But the fucked up part was that Jasmine considered herself lucky that she wasn't thrown out of the house.
I got a major problem with this shit. It was Jasmine's fault for being raped? The fucking man climbed in through her window and gagged her for fuck's sake!!! Moreover, how dare her father brainwash her to think that he was doing her a favor by not leaving her out in the street! How dare you restrict her from dreaming about a college education? How dare you not recognize her as a human being, all her talents and the wonderful person that she is?!?!
While reading about things like this out of something like Time magazine may seem far away, distant or someone else's nightmare, actually knowing someone who goes through this day to day is... Incomprehensible.
But it was I who stood by, listened to her words and watched it happen without lifting a finger.
Posted by *~-mOi-~*
at 3:25 PM PDT